Relationship Cookies In Before Taking Cookies Out

In our daily endeavors, do we put relationship cookies in the jar before expecting to take cookies out? In other words, what do we give before taking? Do we think in terms of finance to realize, we must be able and willing to make an investment before we can receive the dividends?

This is much more than the Quid Pro Quo of, “I’ll do something nice for you, so you’ll do something nice for me.” What I’m talkin’ about is, “I’ll give my best to each encounter with another person, expecting nothing in return.”

Karma is 100% accurate in delivering to each of us exactly what we’ve earned.

Those who contribute little to society and never put a cookie in the Universal jar will receive little in return. Those who go all in to give their best and dump cookies in the laps of everyone will receive abundant rewards.

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One Good Direction Is Forward Into the Future

You’ve heard the stories of horses saved from burning barns to turn right around and run back into the flaming structures. Why do they do that?

Wouldn’t it make more “horse sense” for them to continue moving far away from the inferno? Maybe, there’s no logic involved. Maybe, we’re creatures of habit. If you’ve enjoyed time around horses, you know each of them has their favorite stall and are quite insistent on it.

Speaking of which, do we use “common sense” when escaping from the Hell of our mistakes? Or do we have a burning desire to go back?

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Protect Your Heart Above All Else for Growth

“Above all else, protect your heart,” encourages an old Proverb.

How important is that singular phrase? Simply: a matter of life and death.

Do we ever pause to THINK? “No one cares as much about my life as I do.”

Generally, the answer is, “No.” Because, we are beset with the societal propaganda encouraging a Rich and Famous lifestyle. In other words, the focus is on obtaining individual worth from the lives of others.

There’s a name for that: Narcissism.

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Prove All Things Is The Catalyst For Rewards

What are the three most magical words? Yes, our ears have enjoyed hearing, “I love you.” Yet, how many times in your experience has that been proven to be a lie? These three words will protect your heart: Prove All Things.

In fact, these three words can easily be remembered by the comfort they offer. Similar to a HUG (Hope Understanding Gratitude), the benefit of an effort to PAT (Prove All Things) is a soothing massage for our souls.

Think of your favorite hero — a coach, teacher, or mentor. They were strong of belief and quick to change, when proven wrong. Their rock-solid foundation provided the flexibility to entertain differing views on any topic.

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Chutes and Ladders

Once upon a time, the game was Chutes and Ladders. Now, as older kids, we cope with Funnels and Pipelines. When we were children, the original game was fun. The twisted version not so much.

In today’s marketplace, we are often the unwitting object of Sales Funnels and Leads Pipelines. To many companies, we’re nothing more than a target to tip into the Sales Funnel, to move through their Lead Pipeline, and to have our hard-earned money siphoned into coffers of the unscrupulous.

I speak passionately about the topic, because yes, I, too, have been tricked when I clicked — on the enticements lurking within the hucksters Landing Pages. So, what’s the answer to these modern-day snake-oil salesmen?

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The Four Horsemen of Relationship Strategies

Well Balanced

Four Horsemen of Silverado Heroes

All great thriller movies have this in common — there are four heroes, each with a different and extreme temperament type, who are brought together by the hand of fate to overcome impossible odds.

During the adventure, it becomes clear to us that all four of those different and extreme temperaments — combined into one powerful force — were absolutely necessary for good to triumph over evil.

For each of us, individually, the same principle holds true — we must incorporate the four temperaments into our hero persona to be well balanced and successful in our ventures.

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Pet Dragon

The Stuff of Fairy Tales

Well, I did it again.

After listening to the fears, concerns, and apprehensions of a woman whining about the dangers before her, I rode in on my white horse – with sword in hand – and stuck that fire-breathing beast. He tipped right over into a heap of problem solved.

And, then, oh, wow! — the ship hit the sand.

Come to find out, that was her Pet Dragon.

Once upon a time…

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80/20 Rule Is For Those Unwilling To Give All

Recently, I was gently teasing a colleague about the lack of a Waiting Room when he connects with Scholars using Zoom.

His reply, “Well, I’m a believer in the 80/20 Rule — focus on the 80% that matters and get to the other 20% someday.”

Since I have teased him quite a bit in the past, I heard, “Kim, I’m getting tired of your nitpicking. But to humor you, I’ll be polite and quote the 80/20 Rule.”

There was something about his tone that immediately had me agreeing with him.

Yet you – who know me well – know there’s more to this Story.

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Heard and Understood to Lift Our Relationships

Communication Is What The Listener Does

Upon calling Support and hearing, Press 1 for English, 2 for @#$%, we select the language of greatest comprehension. We want to hear and understand the solution to our situation.

Do we offer the same in our interpersonal communications?

Or, do we launch off into a discourse that is foreign to the ears of our partner? When they seem puzzled, do we simply ‘turn up the volume’ and give them another dose of @#$%?

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