There is a simple solution to the Many wanting what One has. What is bass ackwards can be fixed by adopting the Universal Principle of One To Many.
Of all the responsibilities a parent has, probably the most important is how we “bend the twig” of our children. My parents understood the value of an education. So, at an early age, I have memories of Books.
Big books, little books, books with pictures, and those without. As a little guy I remember sitting next to Mom as she read my favorite stories. There was one about Mike Mulligan and His Steam Shovel.
More often, though, I asked to hear about the Little Red Hen. For some reason, I was intrigued by how a request for help could be denied by others in the community of the barnyard.
Many years later, I came to understand how anyone pursuing Success can make false friends and true enemies. Since that Universal Principle is table stakes in the game of life, let’s look at the lessons taught by Little Red Hen.
Whatever the mind can Conceive and Believe, it can Achieve.
Most of us are familiar with one of the great speeches of all time, “I have a dream…” by Martin Luther King. As I listened to the speech, I was reminded of another period of time in our great country, the United States of America.
For eight years, January 20, 2009 – January 20, 2017, we listened to the oratory of another fellow promise great things. Heck, he even had the masses mesmerized by his magnificent dreams.
Recently, someone frustrated with their life blurted, “You’re so lucky!”
I almost responded with, “Those who work the hardest are the luckiest.”
Instead, I simply replied with, “Yes, but if you only knew my story, you might think differently.” I went on to mention, “You’ve heard the proverbial theory of gathering people around a table to share their problems. After looking around the table, everyone grabs back their own.”
She replied with, “I’m so envious of you. You’ve been in love, got married, had children, and enjoyed success in business. My mother has used you as an example of who I should be.”
That individual was consumed with the drama of their existence and was not interested in my Story. So, I’ll share it with you.
In the vernacular of today, legacy has come to be equated with money and the bequest of little empires to heirs. What might surprise you is that the word originally was used to denote an envoy or ambassador.
For those tying their hopes and dreams to material possessions, good luck with that. We’re physical, temporal beings stuck to a spinning orb in the vastness of the universe and history bears record that empires come and go.
So, what is a legacy — and how do we create one?
The answer to the what and how comes immediately after the why.
The last step in the Journey to build sterling Character is to welcome and accept Constructive Feedback.
Constructive Feedback is the other side of the coin from Reinforcing Feedback. We all love the feedback that sings our praises of a job well done, that acknowledges a situation handled nicely, or that recognizes the dent we’re making in the world.
So, those are the two kinds of feedback — between two people with knowledge of facts, situations, and measurable observations.
What about the third kind of feedback — which comes out of the blue from a third wheel, loose cannon, if you will — from someone with a badge that reads, Sidewalk Superintendent?
If you have the passion for building something special (Attitude) and you have done the challenging work to define who YOU are (Boundaries), then, the final step to success is YOU must go All In (Commitment).
Success is not going to magically waltz into our lives. It is not a destination, at which to arrive. Daily, we must create success — the unique version each of us has determined to be right — for the benefit of ourselves and the rest of the world.
The reason people join cults and gangs is that they want someone else to provide the answers to Life. In other words, they want to shirk the responsibility of making their own choices — and, of being held accountable for their own decisions and actions.
All I can say is, “Good luck with that.” I’ve seen how those stories end — and, it’s never pretty. There is a better way. We get our Attituderight and we get our Boundariesright. Then, we go All In — by sacrificing all of the other options, for a single choice — with Commitment.