Forgive Yourself and Others to Have Peace of Mind

Let go of the notion that there can be a different or better yesterday.

The best definition of forgiveness I’ve heard, “Let go of the notion that there can be a different or better yesterday.” I have memorized this, and when tempted to become bitter toward a life event or recent experience, it is silently repeated until I can forgive, either myself or others.

As a straight-line thinker, High C personality from the DISC Realm, I prefer logic to solve problems. The above definition of forgiveness is quite logical. We cannot go back in time to undo, redo, or otherwise tweak the past. Back To The Future is a fun movie to watch; yet even Marty McFly was surprised with the effects of messing with the Past. It’s history, and it belongs behind us.

There’s a reason automotive manufactures put large windshields in front of us and provide for only an itty-bitty rearview mirror. Seems silly to mention, but we are the safest when looking forward, down the road in front of us, and through that big windshield.

Yes, the rearview mirror is important to remember what we’re leaving behind. And to make sure nothing is sneaking up on us. One other quite functional use is to check the wide-eyed wonder of children on road trips. Oh, and the women are reminding me that it also works to check for any makeup blemishes.

Funny thing, though — as much as I function on logic, warmth and calmness are the emotions when I say either to myself or give voice when sharing with others, “Let go of the notion that there can be a different or better yesterday.”

Now, let’s look at what the Sages of the Ages have to offer as encouragement for us to forgive ourselves and others to have peace of mind.

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Jump for Jump

Early in the bull riding Crusade of my son, Ryan, he made the comment, “Dad, it’s really pretty simple. You just stay in the middle of ’em and ride ’em jump for jump.”

At the time, we were sitting in a Truck Stop across the Interstate from the Horse Palace, where Ryan was waiting for his turn to ride. I was sipping on my coffee and Ryan was stirring his hot chocolate.

The cafe was noisy from the farmer and trucker banter, and distractions were constant because of the shenanigans from the waitresses and busboys. I didn’t hear exactly what Ryan had said. So, I asked him to repeat it.

“Dad, you stay in the middle of ’em and ride ’em jump for jump.”

Yep, from the mouths of babes, or in this case a high school student at the time, comes the secret to life.

Stay in the middle and ride them jump for jump.

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Steel and Velvet

Life is experienced on a tightrope.

Fine lines of distinction separate This from That.

As an example, the short riddle below, comprised of two sentences, is deserving of being solved. It will be our segue into the Thought Du Jour.

Each sentence is accurate.

Together, they become powerful in thought and deed.

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