We want what we don’t have.
If we have it, we don’t want it.
Granted, there are a few individuals, who purport that they have risen to a higher level of existence, by not wanting anything. They claim to be perfectly happy with nothing.
Making the best of whatever the situation — in which we find ourselves — is different than doing nothing. Those who do nothing are stuck in a rut, regardless of the rationalization for their inactivity. And, you do know the definition of a rut: A grave with the ends kicked out.
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Through the years, I’ve given lots of free advice. I’m beginning to realize that’s been a very bad character trait.
» Advice — the wise don’t need it and the fools won’t heed it.
» Free — the perception of something worth nothing.
So, this week, when I said “No, thanks,” to an opportunity of continuing in my tradition of offering free advice, the response was enlightening. Well, I was enlightened. The person making the request was shocked. They were shocked that I would, could, should, and did say, “No.”
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Three Evil E’s
Recently, a friend teased saying, “Now, keep your Ego, Expectations, and Emotions out of the way.”
“That’s profound!” I thought. For many years, I’ve been on a Crusade to Enlighten, Empower, and Encourage. My friend just exposed me to the Yang of my Yin, the Flow of my Ebb, the Take of my Give, and the Down of my Up.
I commonly refer to my E’s as the Three-E Formula — Enlighten, Empower, and Encourage.
To help us remember there is a Dark side (or, shadow) to any Light, I’ll refer to these as the Three Evil E’s — Ego, Expectations, and Emotions.
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Three Good E’s
Greater than a Magic Wand to wave at the hand of fate, this is E-ven better.
This is E times 3.
The prefix forming verbs of “En” and “Em” are expressions of action and doing, defined as:
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Imagine your favorite action movie. The ground is crumbling behind our heroes and heroines as they run toward the only escape available to them. Our heart is in our throat, as we encourage them to go, quickly, forward.
Life is like that. There is no standing still. There is no going back. The only direction to safety is forward.
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The difference between rich and poor is not money. It is the ability to manage the resources available. Many have inherited great amounts of wealth to die broke. Others were born into little and leave behind a legacy.
In the annals of history and the stories of today, Captains of industry are less influential than the Stewards of relationships. In other words, the Empire is less important than the Builders. Regardless of what is built, it is temporary and limited in effect. Those who touch hearts and souls, today, influence the future for many generations.
As we consider our “ships” of families, friends, and communities, why is our role of “steward” important; and, who, really, is the ultimate beneficiary?
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There is only one way to, really, learn anything — and, that is: hands-on.
It is impossible for the mind to forget what the hands have learned.
Why, then, do we believe someone else has the answers to our questions? And, why do we defer our good judgment to others?
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Think about the person you most admire. Why do you admire them?
Isn’t it because they are calm, cool, and collected? Nothing seems to bother them. They are like a Rock — waters part and go around them. Regardless of the craziness swirling around the situation, they focus like a Laser on the points of meaning.
And — the point on which our heroes focus — “Play the cards you’re dealt.”
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Circles of Life
Baby’s first step is cause for celebration. Even for us older kids, first steps can be special times of celebration and acknowledgment.
They are always the beginning of a journey to discovery. Sometimes we follow the first step with a second. Other times that first step forward is followed by two steps backward.
Regardless of the pattern, we are dancing.
Those who love to dance know about the Two-Step. If we are to dance our way into the hearts, minds, and souls of those about whom we care deeply, maybe it’s time we learn the Three-Step.
It is much more than leading with our good foot — and then dragging the other behind. In fact, it has nothing to do with our feet and everything to do with our heads.
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“Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to become the best of which you are capable.”
Legendary UCLA Basketball Coach
All We Do Begins With A Thought
To achieve success, there must be: “The Want To” — That’s the thought.
Then, there must be: “The Want To, Do” — That’s the action.
Knowing and Doing are two very different aspects of life. One is passive. The other is active. One is a state of mind. The other is the motion of the body. One without the other is of little value.
Recently, a story about Coach Wooden grazed my consciousness. Then, it began to burrow deep into my soul. Now, that thought has become an action — to share my discovery with you.
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