Early in the bull riding Crusade of my son, Ryan, he made the comment, “Dad, it’s really pretty simple. You just stay in the middle of ’em and ride ’em jump for jump.”
At the time, we were sitting in a Truck Stop across the Interstate from the Horse Palace, where Ryan was waiting for his turn to ride. I was sipping on my coffee and Ryan was stirring his hot chocolate.
The cafe was noisy from the farmer and trucker banter, and distractions were constant because of the shenanigans from the waitresses and busboys. I didn’t hear exactly what Ryan had said. So, I asked him to repeat it.
“Dad, you stay in the middle and ride them jump for jump.”
Yep, from the mouths of babes, or in this case a high school student at the time, comes the secret to life.
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Stay in the middle and ride ’em jump for jump.
Every decision we make involves the dimensions of Time and Money. Furthermore, for every decision, we have a choice to Spend or Invest.
Right about now, the contrarians among us are busily thinking of an example that doesn’t involve both Time and Money.
While I wait for them to exhaust the possibilities, I’ll continue with the thoughts about — and facets of — Time and Money. Because, after all, between the two, Time is the most precious.
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Think of the most important decision you’ve ever made. Maybe, it was the decision to get married. Maybe, it was that mutual decision to have children. Maybe, it was a flying leap of faith to start your own business.
You chose this and forsook that — all other possibilities.
I don’t know of any individual who believes they can be partly married. How about a little bit pregnant? Or, an Employer providing a paycheck to someone who is no longer an Employee — but is now an Independent Contractor?
Those scenarios are laughable – aren’t they?
Oh, I’m having way too much fun with this. Imagine the skydiver who at 10,000 feet wants the thrill of jumping and the comfort of the cabin. Nope, doesn’t compute. They are either in a perfectly good airplane or out of it hurtling toward earth.
Speaking of which, as they hurtle toward earth, they now have another choice of two options: 1) blunt-force trauma, or 2) tip-toe touchdown.
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Recently, I was reminded of the importance of Communication and Respect by a dance instructor. “As a leader, you must set the tone by your posture and frame. Your partner must feel safe in your presence.”
In other words, I must come to the dance floor sure of who I am — and willing to extend an invitation to someone sure of who she is. Otherwise, a wreck is guaranteed — toes will be stepped upon and feelings will be hurt.
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To succeed at anything, we must want to. Not any old ordinary want to will do. The want to that I’m talking about is an all persuasive, gut churning, bone chilling, teeth gritting, and heart aching passionate desire to achieve.
Good, I lost the snowflakes among us. They quit reading half way through the first paragraph. What keeps you here with me? Do you want to know the first step on the road to Success?
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I’ve had people suggest that I wear darkened eyeglasses — because my gaze is too intense. It’s true — I’m intensely passionate about my purpose in life. And, I thoroughly enjoy that far left lane, designated Speed of Belief.
Remember, when we were first learning to drive, how we had to keep staring at all the gauges to make sure our speed was right, the engine had oil pressure, and the coolant was staying cool. Now, we seldom think about it — we glance, every now and then.
Same song, second verse: I’m operating at the Speed of Belief — not by sight but by feel. Because of the “Curse of Knowledge,” I assume (yes, I know, makes an ass out of u and me) everyone else is comfortable with their hair blown back, too. (As a side-bar, that’s why I wear my hair in a crew cut.)
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I was sitting at the desk with a salesman and behind him, tacked to the wall was a piece of plain white 8½” x 11″ size paper with these letters: TKD. Thoroughly impressed, I commended his belief in “Think Know Do.”
He grinned sheepishly and confessed that his manager had pinned the sign as a reminder “Time Kills Deals.” My antennas shot straight up. After a tour of their factory, conversations with upper echelons, and a discovery of inferior processes and unethical people, sure enough, “Time Kills Deals.”
So, TKD is a two-edged sword — it can represent success, or defeat.
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Who has played sports in school; or encouraged our children to play; or can identify with a hero who plays a sport? That’s what I thought: Everyone.
Now, the more important question: Why are people and resources allocated to teach individuals to Play — and not the same effort devoted to teaching us how to be successful at Work?
The average term of engagement for a sports crusade is, generally, a few years through high school and, maybe, college. The rush of adrenaline and associated glory fades into memory. Then, what?
Our country has a drug (illegal and prescription) and alcohol problem. Is there a connection between the cause (learning to play) and the effect (disenfranchised at work)? Let’s think it through.
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I’m amused when I hear the expression “Gift Exchange.” Similar to hearing jumbo-shrimp, open-secret, or sweet-sorrow, the phrase is an oxymoron.
The word oxymoron is itself an oxymoron; in Greek, oxy- means “sharp” or “wise,” while moros means “foolish.”
The only true gift is one offered without an expectation of anything in return — not even a “Thank You.”
In our western culture, today, that’s a novelty.
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Whatever the mind can Conceive and Believe, it can Achieve.
Most of us are familiar with one of the great speeches of all time, “I have a dream…” by Martin Luther King. As I listened to the speech, I was reminded of another period of time in our great country, the United States of America.
For eight years, January 20, 2009 – January 20, 2017, we listened to the oratory of another fellow promise great things. Heck, he even had the masses mesmerized by his magnificent dreams.
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