When was the last time you enjoyed a dynamic conversation? The question is sincere — because my recent experiences make me wonder if we’ve lost the art of conversation.
In this Age of Devices, we’re so dang connected we’re disconnected. A text message, here — and an email tome, there — gives the impression we’ve done our duty to communicate.
Oh, I agree; there was a Transmission — but, was there Reception. You know what was Sent. Do you know what was Received? Odds are very good, there’s a chasm between the two. The third leg of communication is Feedback.
Any relationship is between two people. Not, three or more — TWO. For those two individuals to build a relationship, there must be communication. Communication can occur over a variety of channels. The most effective method of communication is a dynamic conversation.
Matter of Semantics
How do YOU define the two words: 1) dynamic and 2) conversation?
Here are the definitions provided by Google for us to consider:
Communication is what the Listener does.
Even the definitions above will mean something different to each of us. For the sake of simplicity, we will consider the words: dynamic to be full of life — and conversation to be the sharing of thoughts.
If you’re passionate about life, then YOU have many thoughts to share. How successful have you been with that, lately? Have you found an audience for your thoughts? Do you feel they have heard and understood your gift?
A dynamic conversation can be compared to the game of Tennis. You serve a thought to another person. They slap the ball back to your side of the court. You put a little spin on your return volley. And the fun continues…
Unless and until — you smack one over the net and they catch the ball to judge your intent. Or they ignore your fine serve and let the ball bounce off the court. Or their Ego, false Expectations, and runaway Emotions (Evil E’s) contaminate the playing surface.
You wanted to share thoughts and exchange ideas. They wanted the focus to be on their narcissistic fantasies. And — never the twain did meet. Because they weren’t able and willing to listen; and you have no desire to enable the emotional vampires of the world.
If we peek inside the personas of the hijackers, we find they have NO:
- Original thoughts — only challenges to ours.
- Tolerance for opinions — only narrow beliefs.
- Inclination to give — only a selfish desire to take.
In other words, there is an expectation for you to listen to their Machiavellian escapades — BUT don’t you dare interrupt them or share anything of value that might burst their narcissistic bubble.
There are as many ‘points of view’ as there are people. Imagine that! We don’t know what we don’t know — until we choose to LISTEN to the Stories of others.
Every single person has a Story to share — if we will only slow down, stop, and actively listen to understand. Then, as our horizons are broadened, we realize how much more there is to learn.
The easiest way to do THAT is to engage in dynamic conversation!